I love having a blog and I love when my friends and family members do. I had no idea what was waiting for me when I started this adventure almost a year and a half ago. It has been a blessing to my life in so many ways and for so many reasons.
#1 -- I have experienced the blessings of journaling. I have never been a diligent journal-keeper, which has changed since this blog began. I often take the opportunity to review prior posts for perspective and clarity. On those dark and pessimistic days, I can scroll back and look at pictures of my kids participating in uplifting and stimulating activities and remind myself that I do have a purpose for living and that maybe I
am on the path to my "personal legend" (the Alchemist!). It very often keeps the blessings of my life in the forefront of my mind. I have also been able to sort out problems, concerns, and questions just by blogging about it. So many times I have been able to come up with my own solutions just by getting it down on "paper" and taking the time to think it out well enough to make it post-worthy. Sometimes that action alone helps me make plans and decisions for my life. I understand these to be the blessings of journaling, which I have never before experienced over such an extended period of time.
#2 -- I have learned so much about love, life, parenting, literature, gospel-living, scrapbooking, domesticity, entertainment, and humor by reading the blogs of my friends and family. Thank you, good women, for sharing your life experiences to enrich my understanding of this world and the next. Also, I have greatly benefitted from the generous and helpful comments that have come to me from others on my own blog in response to questions and concerns that I posted. I feel like I have the best resources in the world at my finger tips! I get
so many great ideas from you!
#3 -- I feel so much more "caught-up" on the lives of my friends who live far away. We used to spend so much time reviewing the highlights of our lives during our too infrequent get-togethers. Oh, so you're building a house? Oh, you are adopting? Oh, you are moving out of state? Now when we get together, we can discuss the colors they are choosing for their house, their current successes and struggles with the adoption, and the exciting possibilities of the upcoming move, because we don't have to rehash 6-12 months of life changes in a grand detail-lacking overview. We can dig right in. I have the chance to feel as close to my far away friends and family as I do my next door neighbor. I wish all of my friends had blogs and this is my plea to them, LOL! :)
#4 -- Life is so busy. I have to take my socialization in snatches when I can. Sometimes that is at 11:00 at night. Sometimes it is during naptime. Sometimes it is 10 minutes here or there (cough, cough, or an hour...) Spending 5 minutes reading about the adventures of a loved one gives me a boost and a lift. I don't feel so lonely or lost. It fills me with happiness and joy
almost as much as being together face to face, except it can count as uninterrupted adult time because my kids aren't misbehaving around my ankles or trying to steal your kids' toys! Getting together to visit in person with friends and family is
vital to my emotional wellbeing, but I can be honest enough to say that it's not frequent enough for my social neediness!! And it sometimes seems that the better mom and housekeeper I try to be, the less time I have for filling my own personal bucket with adult socialization. Thanks to blogging, I don't feel alone and I don't miss working at the orthodontist office one bit. I have transitioned to a well-adjusted stay-at-home mom and have never been happier.
And what about some of my neighbors whom I love but never get to see? Our lives are so busy and swinging in circles on the opposite sides of the neighborhood that we don't connect very often in person. I was concerned with the ward merge and me joining YW (and being so very busy with it) that I would feel completely disconnected from those in the old ward and those in the new. Not so! Ok, fine, at least in the case of those that blog. I can think of several (whom I won't embarass publicly, including some previously unknown family members) that I never would have had the chance to know except initially through each other's blogs and now I would classify them as dear friends. When we see each other on the street, there are no awkward blank stares. There is a comaraderie, understanding, and sincere and meaningful friendship that has come from learning about each other. It's as though we have spent many many MANY girls nights out together, laughing and sharing about our lives. LOL, I don't know if they feel that way in return, but I do! It's
so hard to get to know someone by just their "Sunday Face". It takes being in their home, finding out where they keep their chocolate stash, knowing what makes them happy and what makes them sad. Blogging cuts to the heart of that in a quick way.
#5 -- I feel liberated. I spent so many years wondering what people thought about me, convinced (and rightly so) that I was putting out a misleading vibe. I knew that if I talked to someone or made a comment, say, in Relief Society, that depending on the conversation, my general demeanor, and my hormone situation of the day, they would immediately categorize me into a box. People either thought "wow, she is one super-spiritual, focused return missionary!"
or "interesting, she's a little on the crass and naughty side. Better keep an eye on that one!" Sometimes "oh my goodness, she is so super organized!" or "holy cow, how does she function with so little brain power?!" Then there is "wow, that Megan is
so on the top of her game." or "Holy smokes, what a troubled lady with so many scars and damage and neuroses!"
The reality is that
none of them are entirely true and I found myself perpetually annoyed by being pigeon-holed. I feel like on my blog I have been allowed to be myself, good, bad, and ugly. If I want to be an amazing super-mom some days, I'm not going to hide it. If I stay on the couch and watch endless re-runs of Law and Order, feeding my kids goldfish crackers all day, I can own it. One of the best things I have learned through this blogging process is that we are all more alike than we are different. We all have our ups and downs and I no longer feel alone in my craziness. Not my crazy accomplishments, nor my bitter disappointments. Not in my ambitions, nor in my weaknesses. I have loved ones who will tell me "good job on planting those flowers! They are so pretty!" as well as "Oh, honey, I have sooooo been there. This too shall pass." Reading the blogs of others and sharing on my own is about the little things, the things that might not be earthshattering enough to make it to the annual Christmas letter, but that are still worth sharing.
I've just been thinking a lot about it and wanted to share my thoughts on the world of blogging. Do I spend too much time doing it? Um... yeah, sometimes I think so. But I can think of worse addictions :) This has clearly been such a benefit to our family and to me personally. If you made it to the end of this long post, many kudos to you, and you are a true and generous friend, LOL! :)